Posted by: David D. Daggett | October 31, 2011



        Are we living true to ourselves, or are we wishing to be something else? We all seem to have an insatiable desire to define ourselves and our lives as “the best.” Perhaps competitive athletes are the worst at this tendency. In order to find fulfillment and satisfaction it takes a willingness to be who we are, and the best we can be.

Craig Alexander (Crowie) - Ironman World Champ

It seems we many times get caught up in a relentless pursuit to be better than others. We become slaves to worrying about and comparing ourselves to what other people are doing. Only when we have the conscious willingness to forgo this destructive comparison are we then freed to be who we really are.

The “illusion of validity” is a phrase used in a new book, “Thinking, Fast and Slow,” by Daniel Kahneman. In an effort to be comparatively better than others we guard ourselves with an illusion of validity that actually limits who we can be. We develop a facade of thinking that we need to be the best and then live to validate that illusion.

Of course we need to have the drive and desire to work hard and to be the best we can be. When we drop the illusion that we need to be the comparative best, then we can generously support others as part of our journey which allows us to fully accept and respect ourselves.

Willingness to be our true selves is an attitude that supports us as we struggle to be who we are and all we are meant to be. When we give up the illusion that we are the best, we are then freed to be the best we can be.



***Ironman slideshow on Google+***

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